Tell us your story. Many people talk about how the Controlled Separation process has saved their marriage. We need to hear more about the successes and trials that you have had using this process in your troubled marriage.
Tell us how long you have been married; how many children, if any, that you have. Tell us when you undertook a Controlled Separation. Tell us who helped you negotiate the contract- your minister, your counselor, a coach or no one. How long did it last, six months, a year or more?
How did it all work out? What was easy and what was hard?
By sharing your story you will help other people to have hope, to see the possibilities. You can help people improve their own marriage and family life.
Thanks for sharing. Awayls good to find a real expert.
By: Jayan on May 11, 2011
at 2:39 am
My husband and I have been married for 11 years and just recently separated. After he moved out I stumbled across this book and my husband and I are using it to create our own contract. We still love each other but have lost trust in each other due to certain events and lies over the years. I am interested in finding a coach in the RI area if anyone exists.
By: Renee Channell-Kourias on September 19, 2011
at 10:32 pm
I am encouraged to hear that you and your husband are willing to work on your marriage and this tool can be a great assist in that process. Trust can be broken easily and takes time and intention to rebuild. Be patient. Do not rehash the past but make a firm “couple decision” to think the best of each other and decide to move into the future as an intentional and respectful couple. Be good friends and the trust will rebuild. Friends do not hurt each other. Friends give the other the benefit of a doubt. Friends have fun together. Elevate your couple relationship above other things in life that are demanding your attention. The only couples that I have knowledge of are listed on the website. This process can also be facilitated by a mediator, pastor or deacon. They would need to read the book and have knowledge of best marriage practices.
By: epradtke on September 22, 2011
at 3:10 pm
Thank you for your very sound advice. I know it will be a process and will not happen overnight but if we are both committed to working on us, we should be able to navigate through it and come out as a stronger couple on the other end. And using the book as a tool is already proving to be very helpful and I’m not even halfway through it yet.
By: Renee on September 22, 2011
at 3:24 pm
You and your husband will be in my prayers. Marriage is a commitment. A commitment is a promise to be there. It sounds like both of you are “there”. Great place to start. Just work at this. A decade ago Linda Waite reported that couples who get into trouble in their marriage and decide to stay together and work it out, when interviewed five years later were back into each other and more solid as a couple. Those who chose to separate and divorce were pretty much as miserable as they had been before the divorce. I wish you the best.
By: epradtke on September 23, 2011
at 2:34 am