Comments for Controlled Separation

Comment on Testimonials by epradtke

epradtke — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 02:34:04 +0000

You and your husband will be in my prayers. Marriage is a commitment. A commitment is a promise to be there. It sounds like both of you are “there”. Great place to start. Just work at this. A decade ago Linda Waite reported that couples who get into trouble in their marriage and decide to stay together and work it out, when interviewed five years later were back into each other and more solid as a couple. Those who chose to separate and divorce were pretty much as miserable as they had been before the divorce. I wish you the best.

Comment on Testimonials by Renee

Renee — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 15:24:38 +0000

Thank you for your very sound advice. I know it will be a process and will not happen overnight but if we are both committed to working on us, we should be able to navigate through it and come out as a stronger couple on the other end. And using the book as a tool is already proving to be very helpful and I’m not even halfway through it yet.

Comment on Testimonials by epradtke

epradtke — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 15:10:30 +0000

I am encouraged to hear that you and your husband are willing to work on your marriage and this tool can be a great assist in that process. Trust can be broken easily and takes time and intention to rebuild. Be patient. Do not rehash the past but make a firm “couple decision” to think the best of each other and decide to move into the future as an intentional and respectful couple. Be good friends and the trust will rebuild. Friends do not hurt each other. Friends give the other the benefit of a doubt. Friends have fun together. Elevate your couple relationship above other things in life that are demanding your attention. The only couples that I have knowledge of are listed on the website. This process can also be facilitated by a mediator, pastor or deacon. They would need to read the book and have knowledge of best marriage practices.

Comment on Testimonials by Renee Channell-Kourias

Renee Channell-Kourias — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 22:32:53 +0000

My husband and I have been married for 11 years and just recently separated. After he moved out I stumbled across this book and my husband and I are using it to create our own contract. We still love each other but have lost trust in each other due to certain events and lies over the years. I am interested in finding a coach in the RI area if anyone exists.

Comment on by epradtke

epradtke — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 16:57:21 +0000

This is not a legal process. A couple enters into this agreement by mutual choice in hopes of restoring the marriage. I would never attempt to give any legal advice to anyone as all states are specific in their divorce laws. When a couple elects to create a controlled separation, both parties are called to a higher level of sensitivity and awareness of thier actions on thier spouse.

Comment on Suggested Books by elsiepradtke

elsiepradtke — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 03:37:57 +0000

There are not too many resources in Spanish that I am aware of. Perhaps if you contact a Spanish pastor or therapist they might have some titles to recommend. The books on this list are available at Amazon, the public library or other book stores in your area.

Comment on Conferences by elsiepradtke

elsiepradtke — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 03:35:46 +0000

Not at all. Most couples who believe in marriage, and want to stay in the marriage learn how to work out their differences. If there are problems with addictions or abuse it is best to seek professional help or attend an Alanon group in your area. It helps couples in trouble to talk to a knowledgeable pastor or a couple you respect who can help you sort things out. Perhaps attending a marriage education class would be another idea. Would you like to set up a time to talk a bit?

Comment on Conferences by Nicola

Nicola — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 01:57:11 +0000

It is true that almost of the couples that have family problems with consider divorce as an option.:(

Comment on Testimonials by Jayan

Jayan — Wed, 11 May 2011 02:39:57 +0000

Thanks for sharing. Awayls good to find a real expert.

Comment on Suggested Books by Nury Feria

Nury Feria — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 23:07:35 +0000

where may I buy these suggested books? do you have a website to buy them?
are they also available in spanish?
thank you!